Pride comes before the rise

Wednesday, April 25, 2018

Perhaps you’ve heard statements like these before: “Wow, what an egomaniac.” “Oh, she’s so vain.” “He’s really full of himself.” That last comment in particular is one I always find amusing. Well, I would hope that I’m full of myself; I certainly wouldn’t want to be full of someone else! The point I’m making is that it’s become fashionable to criticize pride and egoism. People ought to be modest, or else completely self-deprecating, is how today’s general line of thought seems to go. Do you know what that kind of thinking gets you? Take a look at our pitiful, self-loathing modern society and you’ll find your answer.

The title of this blog post is my alternative take on the old Biblical adage, “pride goeth before the fall.” In other words, those who are prideful will never win the day. Christianity, of course, has always promoted self-criticism, and, indeed, “selflessness.” This coincides with the classic story of Lucifer, who became impressed with his own beauty, intelligence, and power, and desired for himself honor and glory, which, according to the Christians, was ought to have been “for God alone.” It’s particularly ironic, then, that so many of today’s secularists and New Agers, who supposedly want nothing to do with Catholicism, are parroting the Bible and denouncing “the ego.” Christians hate pride. If sex is “the original sin,” then you can be sure that as far as they’re concerned, pride is Public Enemy No. 2.

Recently, I’ve seen several posts on Facebook about how harmful “the ego” is. People have got it completely backwards, and it’s no coincidence that most of the same people who are criticizing love of the self are absolutely miserable, and anxiously ready to make others feel the same way. Furthermore, those who complain about “egotistical people,” are, I find, really just exhibiting a defense mechanism to cover for their own low self-esteem. Look, I’m not writing anything here in support of narcissists – types of people that I have previously critiqued on this website. Narcissism is a personality disorder involving the pursuit of gratification from others, due to the narcissist’s own inability to feel any love or respect for him- or herself. These sorts of buffoons do, actually, represent a sizeable portion of the very “anti-pride” people I’m talking about here, although in the case of narcissists, they will, of course, carry on an absurd pretense in which they “are very proud of themselves, thank you very much,” and in which they claim to firmly support the notion of pride.

So why is everyone suddenly against being prideful of oneself? The simple answer is because they wake up in the morning, look in the mirror, and are not comfortable with who they are, so they try and validate the idea that they don’t need to be (and then, of course, they must seek further self-validation by deriding those who do not ascribe to this philosophy). The more complicated answer is because they have been told to eschew pride – in a manner of speaking. 242 years’ worth of Christian dominance has made America a country that imprints the supposed ‘values’ of that religion upon its society, and even for people who are atheists or New Agers (hell, even for some of those who are Satanists), it can be very difficult to completely break away from that ideological conditioning. The Christian tenets of self-sacrifice, martyrdom, and service to “a greater cause” persist – naggingly so.

But wait, you might say. If that’s true then why are so many people on social media talking about themselves, and sharing every single thing they “like” or do? Aren’t millennials the “me, me, me” generation? My reply is a resounding “nope!” Again, narcissism. It is becoming more and more common, and it’s actually social media that is helping to propagate the disorder. Tell me, what happens when someone who has been instilled with poor self esteem and the twisted, false morality of extreme humility is suddenly given the tools to share 500 selfies and make posts about what he/she is doing, where he/she is going, etc.? You’re going to get an up, close, and personal look at narcissism in its early development. And, while I’m discussing religion, there’s a good analogy to be made here: Just like the proselytizing Christian who must hand out Jesus pamphlets to reinforce his weak belief in his God, the average Facebook user must snap lots of selfies and post lots of “hey everyone, look at me!” content in order to maintain the faรงade that he or she is very proud and emotionally secure.

So what, then, is true pride? It’s a shame that so many people have flagellated themselves into becoming insecure, overemotional little pantywaists, to the point where I actually have to lay out a manual for these simpletons on how to love and respect oneself. But here it is: pride comes from an honest assessment of your own qualities, influence, and achievements. It is my firm belief that you cannot love others before you first love yourself. Furthermore, it’s a slippery slope from rejecting pride to descending into apathy and nihilism.

If you don’t feel that you’re worth anything, why strive for anything in life? Why try and build a career, or educate yourself, or make yourself look good? Why explore any talents? Why live at all? These questions are not merely rhetorical. I actually do struggle to understand how people who don’t exercise pride even get by in this world. How can one not be impressed by their skills, or overwhelmed with joy by the things they teach others? How can one not appreciate how they look?

Many people who do not have a sense of pride are sex offenders, drug addicts, or suffering from obesity. When a lack of self-love leaves a gaping hole in someone’s life, they try and fill that void with sex, drugs, or food – sometimes all three. Money is another beloved void-filler for the self-loathing. You will find that many “rich and successful” people, many businessmen, many wealthy politicians, are raging narcissists. Brown-nosers and other types of yes-men (and yes-women), who get by in life solely on nepotism and general favoritism, are almost always haters of themselves, though quite often they can also have narcissistic tendencies.

There’s more to this than just bad religion and social media-driven psychological problems. The government wants people to loathe themselves. Someone who does not recognize their own self-worth will not complain about not getting paid enough at their job. They will simply bow and acquiesce when someone treats them with prejudice, or mocks them, or has a laugh at their expense. They will not stand up for themselves, and if they prove themselves incapable of doing even that most basic of human functions, they have shown that they will certainly not stand up for anything else worthwhile in this life. The U.S. government, increasingly fascistic as it is, wants a populace that is dumb, weak, and content with its own bootlicking meekness. They do not want a society that embraces egotism; a society that is strong, informed, and enlightened. So this is a small but crucial aspect of the overall issue of pride-hate.

To be frank, it fucking sucks that so many people are like this, and furthermore that they are so angry and resentful to those who do take immense pride in themselves. People who, especially, are in my age group are quickly devolving into insolent, miserable, fragile people. They will get incredibly defensive during any conversation the moment there is the slightest hint of any difference in opinion between them and yourself, so that carrying on any kind of discussion with these types is tantamount to approaching a bubble with a sharp pin.

Meanwhile, the narcissism that runs rampant amongst so many millennials catches like a virus, as cognitive bias and virtue signaling are found all over social media, and thus shared (“rinse and repeat”) over and over again by peers. It then creates a hostile environment; a floor made of eggshells on which you must walk when having any kind of social interaction with these people. It gets to the point where you actually need to refrain from praising yourself or talking about your accomplishments, otherwise they will respond with jealousy and bitterness. I don’t know how people can fix this problem that they have, but it is a problem, and the sooner people recognize it, the better.

Pride comes before the rise. The moment when I first took genuine pride in myself was during the middle portion of my teenage years, and from that day forward, everything gradually became better for me in life. This also allowed whatever depression or emptiness I had felt to fall by the wayside. I suddenly realized that yes, I was good enough, that yes, I am talented, that yes, I am an incredibly wise and intellectual man in a society where both of those qualities are in short supply. The self-haters will have to accept that, hell, I simply enjoy talking about my achievements in life. And so should they! I’ll tell anyone who wants to listen about what a great writer I am, about how I’ve won journalism awards, and how I overcame poverty and acquired a happy and somewhat comfortable life, and about all the ambitions and goals I still have in life. It’s good to talk about yourself – it is psychologically and spiritually healthy. It is never good to not give yourself credit, and it is even worse to speak badly of yourself, so avoid this!

Gaining a love and respect for yourself is the first step toward leading a happy and fulfilled life in this world. So, those who are unhappy with who they are, to you I say, “don’t knock pride ‘till you’ve tried it!”

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